{"id":13740,"date":"2022-03-23T20:09:58","date_gmt":"2022-03-23T20:09:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/samiraholma.com\/?p=13740"},"modified":"2022-04-22T20:29:55","modified_gmt":"2022-04-22T20:29:55","slug":"emotional-triggers","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/samiraholma.com\/es\/emotional-triggers\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Best Ways to Ditch Your Triggers and Gain Control"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When people or things push your buttons<\/a>\u00a0it may not always be possible to react as the emotionally intelligent beings we like to think we are.<\/p>\n

However, there is no shame in feeling intense emotions, nor in needing help to cope better with them.<\/p>\n

Managing our emotional triggers is a powerful opportunity to look into the mirror, see what\u2019s being triggered, and heal ourselves in the process. We can choose to change and take on life\u2019s challenges with grace. While it takes effort and self-awareness, it’s key to create the quality of life you want.<\/p>\n

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\u2981 What Are Triggers?<\/a>
\u2981 Why Do We Get Triggered?<\/a>
\u2981 Breaking The Hold: Identifying Your Destructive Triggers<\/a>
\u2981 Detach Yourself From The Emotions<\/a>
\u2981 Taking Back Control With Healthier Responses<\/a>
\u2981 Key Takeaways<\/a><\/p>\n

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What Are Triggers?<\/h2>\n
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Triggers are something that set us off and cause overwhelm or distress. Triggers can be words, gestures, a story we read, a comment made, or even just bad traffic congestion!<\/p>\n

When we’re triggered we often overreact. You may feel angry, disgusted, sad, anxious, or as if you’re “losing it”. You might also experience increased heart rate, dizziness, and even nausea. As a result, starting an argument, throwing out a mean comment, shutting down emotionally, or being aggressive can seem like a good idea. A recent example is Will Smith slapping Chris Rock at the Oscar’s<\/a>, with being banned for 10 years as the result!<\/p>\n

Triggers scratch open raw wounds from our past. While it is normal to feel these things, triggers can cause unnecessary drama, if we are not prepared to deal with them.<\/p>\n

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Why Do We Get Triggered?<\/h2>\n
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Being triggered is a defense response to what\u2019s going on right now. Triggers are built on stories we tell ourselves based on unmet needs and past experiences.<\/p>\n

As kids or young adults, we have all experienced hurtful or abusive moments. Many traumas were too much to process or let go of at the time as we were still developing. Since we didn’t know better, we’ve created stories that we continue to believe in. <\/strong>We even subconsciously attract relationships and experiences that validate these.<\/p>\n

These stories become a part of our internal belief system<\/a> and shape the way we view and respond to our world and everything around us. Friends, family, partners, or someone you barely know can say or do something that reminds you of trauma from the past. As you haven\u2019t learned to deal with it properly, you just react!<\/p>\n

You want to avoid the feelings (such as loneliness, abandonment, etc.) connected with what you’re experiencing (like being rejected, being disliked, etc.). This often happens in the blink of an eye without you even being aware of it.<\/p>\n

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Getting Triggered Only Backfires<\/h3>\n
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Being triggered is a vicious, destructive cycle that has many ripple effects. Including constant overreaction and recovery, unnecessary stress and drama, shame, loss of trust, relations, and ultimately, the control of your life.<\/p>\n

The key to overcoming your triggers is understanding them better. Stop avoiding them, start identifying and feeling your way through them. Once you do, you can heal, because you\u2019ll no longer be reliving the trauma or hurt that caused the trigger to begin with.<\/p>\n

Let’s dive into the 3 best ways to ditch your triggers and take back the control of your emotions.<\/p>\n

Use this free worksheet to work through your own triggers as you’re reading this article.<\/em> Note: It will open in the same tab.<\/em><\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n

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1. Break The Hold: Identify Your Destructive Triggers<\/h2>\n
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Identifying your triggers allows you to understand and deal with the real issues behind them. Once this becomes clearer, you will realize that they\u2019re not real; they\u2019re just a distorted perception of what\u2019s real! Even if the emotions you have are valid.<\/p>\n

To help you identify and understand how your triggers work, let’s take a quick look at 5 examples of emotional triggers, and how to easily spot them as they happen.<\/p>\n

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When broken down like this, it\u2019s easy to see the role that triggers play in our responses:<\/strong><\/p>\n